Breaking the news

  Okay, so a little story time to begin this adventure. I thought it prudent to start from the beginning and for me that started when my wife told me that she was pregnant.

  So a quick back story so you have some context. My wife and I were married in August, 2012 and we decided to try for a family a few months later. We had an unfortunate miscarriage that led to a lot of heartache and more than a few prayers, and teary nights holding one another because we both hurt so bad. We decided to keep trying and after trying and trying we finally got some good news.
   Let me set the stage for you. My wife and I were living with family and that in and of itself is hard (no offence Mom and Dad) but I left for work knowing that my wife was going to test for pregnancy. I kept expecting a text message all day with ether good news or more hard times but hours kept passing and we text-ed back and forth but no word about the test so I assumed the worst when I got home but she was not acting sad so we had dinner and my wife gave me a bag of gifts and brought out a cake that had blue and pink swirls. I had no idea why there was a cake and why everyone said it was for me. So I opened the gifts and found 'where the wild things are' and I pulled out a babies dress and a blue onsie. I kind of stared at them not really sure what I was supposed to think.
.....................................................................Why would they give me?.........................................................................................oh.
  It clicked and looked up at my wife and asked if we were having a baby and she jumped out of her chair and told me that we were!
  I sat in my chair and I think I said "Cool." while pulling a few baby nooks out of the bag and looking at everything on the table in front of me.
  Now this was not the reaction that my wife wanted from me, and I bet you are reading this wondering why I didn't even stand up and give my wife a hug. Honestly I have no idea.
  Great story right?
  I wanted to share that story because it wasn't till months after that I got to tell the story from my side that my wife understood that the fact that I had been worrying about her all day that I didn't have any energy that I could invest into being excited.
  Guys, if you get this bit of "GOOD NEWS" react that way. Be sincere and be excited it is a good idea to be happy about this. You have just created life at least smile. Know that she is going to need a lot of support and help for the rest of the babies life but if you hold tight and love baby and mommy they will trust and support you in ways you can't imagine.
  Women, if your guy doesn't jump out of his seat and wants to start baby shopping right away cut him some slack. This is a lot of news to take in and it can be overwhelming so give him a second to gather his thoughts. If you let him gather his thoughts and love the baby his way he will never ever let the two of you go.